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 PostPosted: Mon Apr 26, 2010 12:02 pm    Post subject: MAKING A WOMAN REACH HER ORGASM (REAL TALK) Reply with quote Back to top

THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST COMPLICATED SEX ISSUES FOR MANY COUPLES OR PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIP. AND TODAY, I INVITEMY KM MEMBERS TO DISCUSS OPENLY THE MISCONCEPTIONS ASSOCIATED WITH GIVING A WOMAN AN ORGASM.


A couple of years ago, when I read somewhere that researches show more 43% of women cannot have an orgasm and this is associated to some kindf of sexual dysfunctional, I wonder how many of the women I have had sex with NEVER really reached one. And I was confused about the whole ourtcome of that research.

But, the desire of knowing more and more about a woman's orgasm and my many conversation with women who are open to talk about sex, helps me to learn a lot more...

One of my female friends, that I have known since I was in secondary school Haiti, told me last year that "a man can caress her body as much as he wants... he can fu@k her for hours if he wants... but she will never come." he then added, "if he eat her vag!na and do it good for just 7 tpo 15 minutes, she would reach one or two orgasm back to back.

One thing I learn from her statement is that some women do not come as a result of sexual intercourse, because they do not have that vaginal stimulation or G-spot stimulation... therefore, a man must stimulate their clit to really get them to the promise land.

She also said that nothing is more hurtful than when a woman who cannot have vaginal stimulation is having sex with a man who has a BIG pennis and the intercourse last 30, 40, 50 minutes (which bring back to DJK post).

The funny and SAD part of it all is the fact that a lot of times women would fake orgasms once, twice , or even three times during the intercourse just because they are tired and want their male counterpart to hurry up and come. I've talked to a few women who would admit that that would sometimes cream and moan as if they are in heaven, but deep inside they either feel pain and want to sex act to stop, or they would not feel anything at all, but to make the man feel good, they would scream and scream and scream as a way not to disappoint the man.


KM BROTHERS, now you wonder how many times you have been faked and how many times a woman would put one of those pornographic moaning/screaming for you, when in fact you didn't even make her reach an orgasm.

KM LADIES, please talk to us, what is it that you don't comminunicate more with us during sex time so you can better take you to paradise.
Also, if you have faked it before, what is the purpose if you really don't get an orgasm whgen the man do get his. Don't you think you become the loser and him the winner when you fake it. (I know some men do it too. I, myself, have twice or three times , faked it but it's for some other reasons)

LADIES, besides all the nice and exciting foreplay that some men do to turn you on, let us know how to better make you reach your orgasm during the intercourse.

LET'S TALK....

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 PostPosted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 2:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

A FRIEND OF MINE WHO READ THIS POST ON KM SEND ME THE FOLLOWING LINK:

http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/5-myths.htm


It's not surprising that orgasms are such a popular topic. Anyone who has ever experienced an orgasm knows that they feel wonderful and create a feeling not easily duplicated by anything else, particularly when they are achieved in a loving, committed relationship.

What is surprising is that so little is known about female orgasms.
Both men and women come to me with all kinds of misinformation about the subject. Others are completely lacking any kind of information. They don't even know how to get started. Some are disillusioned or frustrated as a result of repeated faked orgasms.

After all this time, I've decided it is time to educate more people about female orgasms.

Now, before you can begin learning anything new about any subject, you must usually un-learn some of what you've been taught in the past.
When that subject is female orgasms, that fact is even more true.
For a long time, female orgasms have been misunderstood by both men and women and that has brought us to a point where a sizable portion of sexually active women have never had an orgasm and even more have never had an orgasm with their partner.

Both groups and their sexual partners are missing out on a wonderful experience, but before you can begin learning the techniques which will generate that elusive orgasm you must first confront some of the most common myths in our culture about female orgasms.

These 5 myths are literally ruining the sex life of THOUSANDS of couples.

After you understand that these are JUST myths (and nothing else) you will finally know that it is possible to please a woman with multiple orgasms every time.
With that said, let´s get started...

Myth 1: Some women just can't have orgasms.

While there are women who have never had an orgasm, there is no evidence to suggest some women are incapable of having orgasms. There are two reasons why some women have not had orgasms in their lives.
The first is that for whatever reason they have never masturbated. Masturbation is often a woman's first orgasm experience.
The second is that they simply are not receiving the proper type of genital stimulation. Clitoral stimulation is needed by most women to have an orgasm. Without that stimulation, it most likely isn't going to happen.
There are some women who have psychological blocks when it comes to experiencing sexual pleasure. This may be the result of any number of past events in their lives, but even that does not mean they are physically incapable of having an orgasm. If they worked through those problems, they would be able to engage in orgasm-producing intercourse just like any other woman.


Myth 2: Women take longer to reach orgasm than men.


This is another common myth which has not been supported by research. The reason people believe this is that they don't understand the female arousal pattern.
Women's arousal patterns are much different than men's and, as a result, they are physically prepared for intercourse later than men are.
The time from optimal arousal to orgasm is pretty much identical for both men and women. The difference is in how long it takes to reach that level of arousal. Because men often don't know how to help their partners get to that point, it does seem to take longer.
Once that's changed, however, men find their partners reach orgasm more quickly and even have multiple orgasms in quick succession.

Myth 3: A Woman can reach orgasm more easily if her partner has a large penis.

Men who have worried for eons about the size of their penis can relax.
The truth is that size really doesn't matter all that much. Since only the first two inches of a woman's vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is useless during intercourse, at least from the woman's physical perspective.
In fact, when men are overly concerned with the size of their penis and whether it's sufficient, their minds aren't focused on pleasuring their partner and that is no way to experience female orgasm.
A survey done by the Kinsey Institute found that the average size of an erect penis measured from the tip to where it connects with the rest of the body is 6.16 inches in length. The girth of an erect penis is 4.84 inches on average.
Both of these statistics are come as a surprise to men and to women who have been convinced by our culture (and possibly pornographic movies and magazines) that the average size of an erect penis is eight or nine inches. That same Kinsey study actually found that less than 2% of men have penises which meet that requirement.
Remember whether a man's penis size is below, above, or just average, he still has the ability to help his partner reach orgasm and that is far more worthy of praise than a few extra inches of penis.

Myth 4: There's nothing wrong with faking orgasms.

The majority of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is there is something very wrong with faking orgasms.
First, faking an orgasm is a form of lying to your partner. The woman is telling him that he has achieved something which she knows he has not.
While that may make him happy or may make him feel good about himself temporarily, in the long run any lie will hurt the relationship because it will eventually be discovered. No matter how good our intentions lying during a relationship is never going to make it stronger.
Second, women who fake orgasms because their partners are not helping them reach climax are denying themselves pleasure wrongly. Faking orgasms not only interrupts a woman's enjoyment of the actual intercourse, it also prevents the man from trying other ways to please her. From his perspective, the sex is great.
The only way to have a mutually satisfying sexual and non-sexual relationship is through honesty.
Although problems in the bedroom can be hard to discuss, bringing them up and working through them will strengthen the relationship and will make the sex better for both partners.

Myth 5: Women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.

This is definitely not true but it's a myth that has caused us to take women's sexual needs for granted for a long time.
This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms.
The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example.
As a result of Freud's determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure.

Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women's right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her.


DO YOU LADIES AGREE 100% WITH ALL THAT IS BEING SAID.
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 PostPosted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 3:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

Hmmmm

Reaching an orgasm is NOTTTT easy! TRUST..

Its fun having good sex.. penetration feels great.. you both b*st a good nut & men walk away feeling great while the woman feeling alright. Just cause b*sted a fatty doesn't mean I reached an orgasm. (generally thinking) There is a difference.. or is it just me. Orgasm is a crazy feeling.. you can't even describe the ish in words even if you wanted to. A night of good sex doesn't mean I reached an orgasm.
It all depends on the man's skills. Some men just know a woman's body and just knows how to satisfy her and take her to that peak... Again it takes team work and mental unity

As far as reaching that point.. how I would love to elaborate but I can't reveal all that information.. Me will be in trouble... eeks..
Each body is different any way. What works for one may not work for another.. Guess one will have to explore themselves & each other in order to see what feels good and build on it...

FAKING is wack. If you're not enjoying it.. then put that session to the end. Or just think about somebody else to get you off.. and keep it moving..
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 PostPosted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 6:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

A big round of applause for DJ MINGO for bringing up such a great topic Very Happy
A good friend of mine who happens to be 30yrs and has a child confided in me that she has never experienced an orgasm Shocked YEP you heard right NEVER! At first, I found it to be crazy and confusing but she was being very honest with me. I wanted to cry when she asked me to explain the feeling Crying or Very sad which we all know I wouldn't know where to began.

I'm in the mix of learning and exploring a few good pointers at pleasuring myself. I'm NOT one to FAKE... I refuse to FAKE!

I'm a slut when it come to ORAL so that answers the question for me! 3mins maleeeeeeeeee Laughing Laughing Razz
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 PostPosted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 6:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

Erotically Yours wrote:
Hmmmm

Reaching an orgasm is NOTTTT easy! TRUST..

Its fun having good sex.. penetration feels great.. you both b*st a good nut & men walk away feeling great while the woman feeling alright. Just cause b*sted a fatty doesn't mean I reached an orgasm. (generally thinking) There is a difference.. or is it just me. Orgasm is a crazy feeling.. you can't even describe the ish in words even if you wanted to. A night of good sex doesn't mean I reached an orgasm.
It all depends on the man's skills. Some men just know a woman's body and just knows how to satisfy her and take her to that peak... Again it takes team work and mental unity

As far as reaching that point.. how I would love to elaborate but I can't reveal all that information.. Me will be in trouble... eeks..
Each body is different any way. What works for one may not work for another.. Guess one will have to explore themselves & each other in order to see what feels good and build on it...

FAKING is wack. If you're not enjoying it.. then put that session to the end. Or just think about somebody else to get you off.. and keep it moving..


Epaw peur pale...Met fanm sou ou pou'w ka pale pou mwen right now!
Nicely put on your response!
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 PostPosted: Fri Apr 30, 2010 9:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

KREOLA wrote:
A big round of applause for DJ MINGO for bringing up such a great topic Very Happy
A good friend of mine who happens to be 30yrs and has a child confided in me that she has never experienced an orgasm Shocked YEP you heard right NEVER! At first, I found it to be crazy and confusing but she was being very honest with me. I wanted to cry when she asked me to explain the feeling Crying or Very sad which we all know I wouldn't know where to began.

I'm in the mix of learning and exploring a few good pointers at pleasuring myself. I'm NOT one to FAKE... I refuse to FAKE!

I'm a slut when it come to ORAL so that answers the question for me! 3mins maleeeeeeeeee Laughing Laughing Razz


Im a slut when it comes to ORal... Gotta love that line!.. Smile Fudgin love it!

Dang feel sorry for your girl! She just hasn't met the right person I think. IDK It could be a few things.. but based on experience I would possibly say compatibility. Honestly only one person has made me reach that point. I haven't felt it with any other person.. Aint that sumthn'! So I wonder if its a "sexual compatibility" type of thing. Some people are intimate with a partner who they "fully" aren't compatible with. This partner in question and myself are very much compatible.. the chemistry is out of this world.. and I can honestly say, he's the only person to help me get to that peak.. through penetration.. Now that is SKILL.

I think that ORALLY a woman can definitely hit an orgasm.. Your partner just gotta be skilled like that... If he can munch on something serious and you can challenge yourself to hang in there and reach that peak then you're good and on your way...

But when it comes to penetration.. a nucca gotta put in some work for real.. LOL! Reaching an orgasm through sex is not easy.. at all.. But if he got that oral game on lock.. then se bon bagay!..

Epi EPS! Ou mem! Mwen paka pale vre... but TRUST, if I could.. U know I would.. Laughing
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 PostPosted: Fri Apr 30, 2010 10:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

I thought I was having 'good' sex when I was a a teenager and in my early 20s but looking back,... Rolling Eyes I can say with hindsight that it was below average, but since it was all I knew then, I thought it was good sex. I was sooooooooo mistaken Exclamation

They say women reach their sexual peak in their 30s for many reasons. You know what you like and don't like, I can only speak for myself, but beign assertive in bed does change your perpective and the way you do things.

I love oral. I can have an orgasm by penetration alone too.. So I have the best of both worlds Laughing It all depends on the mood i'm in... I may want it all sweet, with plenty of intercourse and tongue or just the real deal, right here, right now.
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 PostPosted: Tue May 04, 2010 8:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

Im glad that people are actually talking about what makes women reach their peek instead of what ought to make women reach their peek.

Freud is a bunch of crap. I remember I had to read this guy for some class I was taking.

But I believe the main thing with this issue is communication.

as long as both people communicate with eachother about what makes them feel good, then everything should be fine.

Men, stop this macho crap. It doesnt matter what you've done with any other woman in the world. Each woman is different. Listen and follow directions.

Ladies, there is nothing wrong with talking during sex. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex after sex.

If you cant talk about sex with your partner, than yall dont need to be doing it.
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 PostPosted: Thu May 06, 2010 6:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

SIROMYEL wrote:
Im glad that people are actually talking about what makes women reach their peek instead of what ought to make women reach their peek.

Freud is a bunch of crap. I remember I had to read this guy for some class I was taking.

But I believe the main thing with this issue is communication.

as long as both people communicate with eachother about what makes them feel good, then everything should be fine.

Men, stop this macho crap. It doesnt matter what you've done with any other woman in the world. Each woman is different. Listen and follow directions.

Ladies, there is nothing wrong with talking during sex. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex after sex.
If you cant talk about sex with your partner, than yall dont need to be doing it.


THIS IS WHERE THE PROBLEM LIES. MOST WOMEN ARE SHY WHEN THEY ARE HAVING SEX WITH A MAN. EVEN THOSE WOMEN WHO TALK A LOT ABOUT SEX WITH THEIR PARTNER ON THE PHONE AND FACE TO FACE, SOME OF THEM DON'T REALLY COMMUNICATE WHILE DOING IT. SOME WILL NOT EVEN LET THEIR PARTNER LOOK AND ADMIRE THEIR BOPDY WHEN NAKED. THEY WOULD WOULD THE LIGHT TO BE COMPLETELY OFF AND THE ROOM COMPLETELY DARK.

BECAUSE EACH WOMAN IS DIFFERENT, COMMUNICATION SHOULD PLAY A GOOD ROLE IN MAKING A WOMAN REACH AN ORGASM.

GEN ANPIL GASON TOU, DEPI FANM LAN AP FE ANPIL BWI, OUBYEN BOUBOUN LAN AP KONTRAKTE, BOUBOUN LAN MOUYE, YO PANSE SE VOYE FANM LAN AP VOYE. GUYS, BECAUSE THE VAGINA IS VERY WET DOESN'T MEAN THAT WOMAN HAS REACH AN ORGASM. SOME WOMEN CAN GET VERY WET DURING FOREPLAY, OTHERS CAN GET VERY WET DURING INTERCOURSE, BUT THAT MIGHT NOT BE AN ORGASM.

AND THE FUNNY THING IS THERE ARE WOMEN WHO ARE IN THEIR 40'S AND 50'S WHO NEVER HAVE AN ORGASM, AND SOME OF THOSE WOMEN DON'T KNOW IT.

A MALE FRIEND OF MINE TOLD ME ONCE THAT FOR 5 YEARS, HE ALWAYS THOUGHT HE DID A GOOD JOB WITH HIS GIRL, FOR WHOM HE WAS THE FIRST BOYFRIEND. THE GIRL ALWAYS SCREAM, THE PU$$Y OFTEN CONTRACTED DURING SEX, AND HE THOUGHT HE WAS DOING A GOOD JOB AND HAS THE FALSE BELIEF THAT SHE ALWAYS CAME DURING SEX.... BUT HE ONLY FOUND OOUT THAT FANM LAN PAT JANM VOYE MENM YON FWA FOR THE 5 YEARS THEY HAVE BEEN HAVING SEX ONLY AFTER INTRODUCED A VIBRATOR TO THE EQUATION DURING FOREPLAY.
HE SAID WHILE HE WAS USING THE VIBRATOR ON HER, HE SAW ANOTHER KIND OF REACTION SHE HAS NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE, THEN HE KEPT ON DOING HER WITH THE VIBRATOR FOR A GOOD 20-30 MINUTES, AND AFTERWARD USED HIS PENNIS AND TO HIS SURPRISE, THE GIRL WAS GOING NUTS AND HER BODY WAS SHAKING LIKE NEVER BEFORE, AND SHE SCREAM THAT SHE FELT SOMETING WEIRD IS HAPPENING TO HER. THAT WAS THE FIRST TIME SHE EVER COME IN 5 YEARS.

SO, GUY DON'T ASSUME YOUI KNOW IT ALL. AS SIWOMYEL MENTION, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER BEFORE, DURING, AND AFTER SEX. LADIES, FEEL OPEN TO TELL HIM WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCE, THE POSITION THAT MAKE YOU FEEL REALLY GOOD, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, LADIES, DO NOT FAKE IT.
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 PostPosted: Thu May 06, 2010 11:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote Back to top

I have one life to live... I ain't gonna waste it on finding out the impossible Laughing Laughing

If I can figure how to have an orgasm in two minutes, why can't you figure out how to have in 20 minutes? Rolling Eyes

At the end of the day we had bout the same two minutes Laughing Laughing Laughing

NAJE POU'W SOTI Laughing

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