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[SexyAfterdark]

What do you guys think of Nickerson's song. I love that song because I feel the same way.

[Haitian Flavor]

Yes and no. Most men when the first meet a women and they approach them, it's because they're attracted to them in some level. So there's always something there. When they decide to be JUST FRIENDS it's mainly because of attachements to other people. All of my now MALE FRIENDS once upon a time were all attracted to me. However once nothing happened there, they became my friends instead. I think it could happen but then again, Like I said there's always something there. So precautions are always in order.
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[veegee]

I agree. Before most men become friends with women, I believe there is some kind of attraction there. Whether or not it develops into something, that is open. As for the Nickerson's song about don't get upset if I go to the movies with my female friend (not sure of the exact wording), that is BULLSHIT. I am not going to allow my man to got to the movies with his female friend while I stay at home. HELL NO!!!!! I will be right there with them, enjoying my popcorn.

Thank you.
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[Haitian Flavor]

I love the song too. However I wouldn't want to be in Nickenson wife place if it what he said in the song were all true. Like him saying they could be on the phone all day long. RIGHT!!! What sane women would be ok with that happening? JUST ZANMI OU PA NOT EXCEPTABLE!!!
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[CatDog]

Tout regle genyen ekseptyon pa yo. I do believe that a man and a woman can be friend.
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[SexyAfterdark]

There would not be any issues if there were not always secracy. Why can't a female meets her man's female friends? Because there is secracy, ther is always suspicion.

Veggee,

As far as you not letting your man go to a movie with a female friend that is bull********it because sister, you know if he wants to, he will make it happened. I would prefer to know my man's females... you know, keep your enemies close but your friends closer type of things.

I think that I should be able to hang with my friends especially friends that I've known for years. Needless to say, that I can't stop my man from hanging out with his female friends but I would him to be open and honest with me.

I think there is something to be said for some females out there who are knowinly getting involved with man that are not single or friends getting involved with their friends man. Totally not cool.

[veegee]

SexyAfterDark:

It is not Bull****. If I don't know, then I don't know. But if he comes to me and let me know that he is going to the movies with his female friend and he doesn't even offer an open invitation, then I have a problem. It shows that he has something to hide about the relationship. I agree with keeping my enemies close, but the bottom line is how solid is the communication between me and my man.
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[LaBelle Kreyolla]

Yes! It can happen, been there and it's working quite fine.

So yes again we can be friends without being intimant.
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[Haitian Flavor]

LaBelle Kreyolla wrote:

Yes! It can happen, been there and it's working quite fine. So yes again we can be friends without being intimant.

No one said it couldn't happen. It's just, that there should always be some what of a guard up. Some of the best of friends aren't of the same sex. But like I said SOMETHING can always happen. It might not be intentional, but you can't fight nature once it decides to take it's course.
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[JenJen]

I believe that men and women can be friends without intimacy. However, I believe that it's a conscious decision that one or both make to not become intimate or pursue the intimacy. When a man and woman spend enough time together, I think it's inevitable that more than friends feelings will develop. You naturally feel a closeness with someone with whom you have prolonged contact. Whether or not you pursue the possibility of a relationship is a decision that will need to be made.

I agree with others in that most men enter a "friendship" with a woman based on physical attraction to the woman and in addition with the idea of a possible sexual relationship with her. My experiences have been that these men generally don't hang around as friends once it becomes clear that a sexual relationship will not occur. A man and woman can be "friends", but if the guy would like it to develop into something more and she doesn't, I wouldn't count on the guy hanging around long. I think that you would have to go waaay back with a guy in order to have a sincere platonic relationship with him or he would have to be married when you meet him.

As for Nickenson's song.... that's a little too close for comfort for me. Out of respect for the relationship and the significant other, the guy has to place boundaries. Certain activities he should want to do with his significant other, not the female friend. I think the guy is inviting trouble by spending that much time with a female friend.
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