KOMPA! MAGAZINE

[SIROMYEL]

How many of you ladies and gentle men would ask your partner about their past sexual relations?

How many of you wold feel disrespected if your partner was to ask you?

Do you think it is important, or even necessary to ask?

If they were to tell you, how could you be sure they were telling youthe truth?

How would you put someone at ease to discuss such a matter?

When do you cross the line between inquiring for health purposes and getting to know your partner better to just plain old obsessing about his or her past?

[KREOLA]

1. I would never ask, If he wants to share then go ahead and be my guest

2. I wouldn't feel "DISRESPECTED" but I think that's invating my past experience

3. It's important to share if certain health situation arise...Not necessary to ask

4. You can never be too sure of a correct count...That's where honesty/trust comes into the relationship

5. My way of easing my partner is to start of with a joke then the convo just keep flowing. It depends on the person personality

6.When it comes to health it's never crossing the line...I normally ask before I go "RAW"

[JenJen]

How many of you ladies and gentle men would ask your partner about their past sexual relations?

I would ask my partner about past sexual relationships. I would want to get an idea of how the guy treats relationships. I would want to know if the guy is more of a serious type or if he is mostly interested in having a good time. I wouldn't need to know details.

How many of you wold feel disrespected if your partner was to ask you?

I wouldn't feel disrespected if my partner were to ask me about my past relationships. It's natural to want to know about your partner's history. Most people would like to know if their partner has been around or if the person is more selective in their partners. As long as they're not obsessed with details, I don't think it's a problem.

Do you think it is important, or even necessary to ask?

It may not be important or necessary to ask. Each relationship is different. You can't always judge your relationship based on others. You and your partner should have a good understanding of what the expectations are and what exactly you are looking for. However, asking could give you an idea of who you are dealing with. Sometimes past behavior is a good predicator of future behavior.

If they were to tell you, how could you be sure they were telling youthe truth?

You can never be too certain. People have a tendency to fudge the truth, especially when past relationships are concerned.

How would you put someone at ease to discuss such a matter?

Talking about yourself first usually puts people at ease when discussing delicate matters. Also assuring them that you will not judge them would put them at ease.

When do you cross the line between inquiring for health purposes and getting to know your partner better to just plain old obsessing about his or her past?

If you're constantly asking for or bringing up details from past relationships, then you've crossed the line. Inquiring for health purposes may just be an excuse. Whether your partner has been with 1 person or 100, it doesn't matter. It only takes one person to give you a disease. Take the necessary precautions regardless of the number.
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JenJen

[kafou]

Yon seul bagay ke map di nou se ke, PAst experience Sexuel pa gade'w, that's none of your Biznis, yon seul bagay se tankou yon jwet domine pou jere'l, pendant domino a nan main'w la, jere'l that's all you need to know.
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[SIROMYEL]

WOW! kafou, so you wo ldn't want to know what yourpartner has done in the past that seliked? If hse had ever had unprotected sex?

The questions aren't relly concerned iwth numbers, but rather the other aspects of past experiences nad ow you cna learn from them.