KOMPA! MAGAZINE

[Haitian Flavor]

Once you start dating a guy, they're great for the first few weeks perhaps even months. However down the line things change. It's like the wooing stage is over. I won't say we're all great GF either but the ones that are should be treated like queens. AT THE BEGINING, THE MIDDLE, AND THE END. But then again there shouldn't be an end. Give the 411!
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[CatDog]

Mesye KM yo vini pale ak nou non. Sanrick, Kafou, Boxer, H1 etc kote nou
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"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." George Carlin

[Haitian Flavor]

'Cmon guys let me know. Or please someone set me straight.
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[kafou]

Medames et monsieur, nou konnin se apres festvial ke board la ap retourner 100%.
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JISKOZO EPI NINPOTKIJAN

A LA MANIERE DE MIZIK LAKAY
" OU DI OU CHAJE KLAS, ENBIN POUKISA OU PA ALLER FE LEKOL AVEK YO"

[Chachou]

Bon, my reply is simply the more things change, the more they stay the same.

What I mean by that is if you are dating someone don't let your guards down just because the person is being "nice". Remember all new beginnings are beatutiful. Especially men--everything new is well new and if their attraction to you in the first place is ONLY physical than you've got big problems if you want to take it to the next level or want to be treated the same.

My advice to you Haitian Flavor is that you look past the initial treatment, there are signs to tell you if the person is simply "doing the song and dance to get in your pants" or if they truly want to get to know you and deepen the relationship.

If the male is attracted to your physical appearance alone than you need to either walk or get him to see past that physical side before you get intimate. Most relationships begin with physical attraction and that is where you need to be level headed and know what you want--do you want a fling? do you really want to get to know this person and possibly make him/her a permanent figure in your life? All these questions should come into play when considering a relationship.

Oh and off course be sure he is NOT married because players will often tell you "they are having problems with their wives...blablabla" DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE--they just want to get in your pants and walk! Surtout garcon Haitiens!

The last advice is if a person is treating you bad after a few months of dating WALK! NO, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM THEM!!

By the way you can never be sure about anybody but there are signs that you should look for and DON'T discount them whatever you do. My uncle was married for 25 years and got a divorce, I was so upset at him, I didn't speak to him for an entire year. Bottom line was the way he left his wife which to me was wrong. His wife (wonderful woman) was confident that after 25 years her relationship was secure...WELL....Long story another thread!

By the way the advice comes from observation, lots of reading and classes taken on human relationships and off course friends sharing their experiences and to a certain extent what I applied prior to deciding to tie the knot!

Bon! Dear Abby hope she helped you out .
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Peace,
Chachou

"The Brightest Future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." Anonymous

[CatDog]

Chachou wrote:

Bon, my reply is simply the more things change, the more they stay the same. What I mean by that is if you are dating someone don't let your guards down just because the person is being "nice". Remember all new beginnings are beatutiful. Especially men--everything new is well new and if their attraction to you in the first place is ONLY physical than you've got big problems if you want to take it to the next level or want to be treated the same. My advice to you Haitian Flavor is that you look past the initial treatment, there are signs to tell you if the person is simply "doing the song and dance to get in your pants" or if they truly want to get to know you and deepen the relationship. If the male is attracted to your physical appearance alone than you need to either walk or get him to see past that physical side before you get intimate. Most relationships begin with physical attraction and that is where you need to be level headed and know what you want--do you want a fling? do you really want to get to know this person and possibly make him/her a permanent figure in your life? All these questions should come into play when considering a relationship. Oh and off course be sure he is NOT married because players will often tell you "they are having problems with their wives...blablabla" DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE--they just want to get in your pants and walk! Surtout garcon Haitiens! The last advice is if a person is treating you bad after a few months of dating WALK! NO, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM THEM!! By the way you can never be sure about anybody but there are signs that you should look for and DON'T discount them whatever you do. My uncle was married for 25 years and got a divorce, I was so upset at him, I didn't speak to him for an entire year. Bottom line was the way he left his wife which to me was wrong. His wife (wonderful woman) was confident that after 25 years her relationship was secure...WELL....Long story another thread! By the way the advice comes from observation, lots of reading and classes taken on human relationships and off course friends sharing their experiences and to a certain extent what I applied prior to deciding to tie the knot! Bon! Dear Abby hope she helped you out .

Well said Chachou. How about when they tell you "se pou papye wi mak fi a pa genyen anyen entre nous� then you find out they have kids and have been together for a long time? I know so many people that have been dupe by that line. Just be careful when making your selection.
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"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." George Carlin

[Haitian Flavor]

Thanks!!! This is a general observation with 75 percent of Haitian men. They always think there's nothing wrong with the relationship. Meanwhile the women is not as Happy as she should be or was. She just might miss the passion, the no reason phone calls, even if its just to say a quick "HELLO". The anticipation of the next time... They don't necessarily have to be not treating the woman right. I just think the relationship shouldn't change much, even if it's after 1+ years into it. A relationship shouldn't just be sweet in the begining. We should always feel like we're being wooed. Guys Stop taking your queens for granted!!!
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[kafou]

Post sa, mwen pap manyinl paske se "Men Bashin Time". i can sense fustration and Anger among you females, tankou nulook kon di'w, si ti ko'w pa bon jete'w.

mwen jete'm.
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JISKOZO EPI NINPOTKIJAN

A LA MANIERE DE MIZIK LAKAY
" OU DI OU CHAJE KLAS, ENBIN POUKISA OU PA ALLER FE LEKOL AVEK YO"

[Chachou]

CatDog wrote:

Well said Chachou. How about when they tell you "se pou papye wi mak fi a pa genyen anyen entre nous� then you find out they have kids and have been together for a long time? I know so many people that have been dupe by that line. Just be careful when making your selection.

Catdog! Some men will tell a naive girl anything and the worst yet is some of these girls actually want to believe the lies. Especially with artists, some of them their marriage or involvement have been highly publicized and you get these girls clicking their heels talking about they didn't know he was married .

Let me tell you someting Catdog, si yon neg diw li marrie avek yon damme pou residence epuis pendant ou nan relation avek li ou pa jamais rencontré avek soit disant damme que li marié a and develop a relationship wit said residence provider....he is lying to you and you should RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN

Many girls fall into the category of clicking their heels and wishing they aren't in Kansas anymore and hoping this or that man wasn't married and actually look forward to hearing the guy tell them non sense like "m'gin problem ak madamme mwen--nou pral divorcé bientot" or "se pou residence mouin avek damme nan"--LIAR LIAR PANTS ON FIRE! Pa Okupé Li as Zin would say
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Peace,
Chachou

"The Brightest Future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." Anonymous

[Haitian Flavor]

Non Kafou, Ou pa bezwen je te'w. just want your opinions.
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